By on January 20, 2018

Human psychology is such that we often thrust our words and dreams upon our children and teach them to start dreaming big. Why? Because we feel that if we could achieve anything in our life we start presuming that our children would achieve it for us. The essential reason is that till now people feel the only ingredient to success is to ‘DREAM BIG’.

All the management experts set a benchmark for the commercial enterprises to dream big and achieve growth if they are well to survive in terms of volumes, profits, sales and number of such synonyms.

Corporate success is so irretrievably linked that to constant growth that if you keenly observe that growth for the sake   of growth is the strategy of cancer cells. Dissatisfaction, anger, jealousy ,ill health are all the results of constant hankering for something bigger and better leading to   inflated desires. This ultimately restricts our ability to achieve those goals for which we are dreaming big.

According to   Shrimad Bhagvat Geeta , the efficient path to happiness is to reduce one’s desire.  So does it mean that we need to aim low and under achieve? Then how do we reconcile to these diametrically opposite concepts?

As per Hindu mythology and philosophy, human life has been uniquely divided and with a specific objective associated with each phase. This encourages us to dream big on goals pertaining to any given phase and as the phase changes one dreams’ big on new goal. None of the system is always perfect but we should observe the better decision associated with it than just perennially accepting growth.

When you  are a student the primary objectives are education, celibacy and self-discipline. Sometimes sexual abstinence is rejected much like refusing to slake one’s thirst.

When you are a householder, your focus shifts to marriage and long term partnership, children and then empowering one’s children to stand on their own feet.

When one embraces a retired life, one needs to delegate responsibilities and shift their desires from material and sensual pleasures to pursuit of spirituality. This is a grooming phase for next level of leadership in preparation of next phase.

Then is the involvement of complete renunciation where one concentrates on detachment, reduces desires to the least aspiring to seek moksha- the Sanyana Ashram, called the ultimate destination.

In case there is any mismatch in choosing a goal that is not classified to any of the above phases/ashrams is likely to create personal and social chaos. The transformation from one phase to the other especially for the last two phases is very different from the doctrine of perennial growth.

This is the best way to identify your relevant goals, and try your best to achieve the maximum possible and then aspire to achieve a new set of goals in a very good way to improve happiness and quality of life. So let’s DREAM RIGHT instead of BIG !